posted on October 26, 2012 16:54
What is it about parenting today that is so confusing? Is it the fact that parenting has changed dramatically in the last one hundred years? And our roles of mothers and fathers are significantly different than that of our grandparents, parents and even what we ourselves remember as children. Today parenting may be more pressure and less picturesque than what we remember from our past, but parenting really isn’t that difficult if you just keep in mind three simple, time-tested principles.
1. Do everything with love. Whether it’s speaking to a child, listening to a child, feeding and clothing a child or disciplining a child; do it with love. A child will automatically sense the love coming from you. If you are just going through the motions or having resentment or anger issues, the child will sense these emotions as well. Kids are smart.
2. Kids are smart, but not as smart as you. Sometimes it seems as though the parent actually allows the child to believe that he is smarter than his parents. Remember that even though they may know the formula for a very difficult trigonometry problem, you have lived longer and know more in general about life no matter what their grades in school may be. On September 21, 2009 the Examiner.com revealed that the human brain is not fully developed until the age of 25. Until that age it is more difficult to use rational thinking, make decisions, see long term effects and use good judgment. Sometimes it is necessary to guide your child in the right direction. If you do this by presenting facts and age-appropriate information the child’s natural sense of what is right will usually prevail. Sometimes you may have to make an unpopular decision in order to keep the child’s well-being intact.